Mondays…Get Motivated in Your Relationship

This is my Motivation Monday/Man Crush Monday thought of the day…

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Monthly Date Nights

My man crush always and forever is my husband. This weekend was very productive. We spent time as a family, and we made sure to honor our commitment to getting away from our hectic lives (and our energetic son) at least once a month to have time together. After marriage, and especially after children come in the family, couples forget to make time for each other. Time to talk about ourselves, how we’ve grown individually and how we’ve grown together. Even things that have stressed us and those negative impacts that have overcome ourselves and each other. I believe it’s important to communicate our personality to our partner’s. We go through so many emotional roller coasters that partners need to be told out loud all the emotional changes we go through. No one partner can read the other’s mind no matter how well we think we know each other. Their thoughts and how they feel about those thoughts are two different perspectives. As they always say, “Communication is key!” After all it’s not “Happily Ever After” when you get married like they show in fairly tales. There are so many more adventures and there is so much more work after.

We are not two separate people, but two different people that bring different aspects in the relationship. We work as a team and are partners in life outside and inside our home. When one is slacking in motivation whether it’s life goals or motivation to overcome obstacles, we push each other (especially when it comes to motivating one another to work out). We don’t pay attention to gender roles in our relationship. We equally do the house work, cook, clean, and take care of our son. One might do tasks or chores more than the other, but if one is slacking the other is always there to help pick up after. We value each other’s opinion on topics, ideas and even beliefs in how we raise our children. We can see how our cultural values are different, especially when I come from a culture totally different. Instead of punishing him for not understanding me, I educate him as to why my behaviors are the way they are. You’re not only bringing two different personalities into a marriage you are bringing two different household values and beliefs. Compromise is key in this aspect!

My husband is my MCM (man crush Monday) because we can be nerds together, be athletic together, be adventurous together, discover new things/new places together, be sad together, discuss serious topics together, make each other laugh each minute of the day together, love our son together, show him the world together, forgive together, be spiritual together, be angry together, be supportive of each other, tell each other when we’re getting out of hand, and most of all love together. ❤

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My Sailor Prince

Lent

Yesterday was the start of Lent! {For those who don’t know what Lent is about. It’s the act of valuing repentance. As Catholics, for 40 days and 40 nights (from Ash Wednesday to Easter Sunday) we practice prayer, repent, and fasting. Some may also give up something they value or do that are unGodly means to concentrate on being closer to God and his practices.

My family and I went to Mass to get our ashes put on our foreheads. {Ashes symbolize the dust in which God made us, and that we may remember that we will return to dust again one day.} Then I thought about what I should give up this year and maybe give some ideas to any of you that practice as well.

In previews years I’ve given up soda, chocolate, coffee, video games, and skipping a meal (as far as I can remember). You may ask that those do not add up for how old I am. I’ve repeated some of the previous years when I couldn’t think of anything. This year I decided to give up alcohol. Not that I drink every day at all. This year I feel like I’ve had more alcohol than I’ve had in one year (again not that I drink a lot anyway). I think the reason was because I haven’t had alcohol in a year since I was pregnant than had to breast feed for a while. Subconsciously, I think my mind wanted to make up for it. Plus with friends coming and going and us actually getting to celebrate as a family with our friends having new adventures this year, it added the reason to drink. I just wanted to stop for a while. Plus it helps to lose weight, just another benefit. My husband is giving up video games. Which is good, because he can finally concentrate on better things. Get more stuff done for himself, such a catching up on reading maybe get back into working out.

I laid out some ideas that I hope help some of you. Others people give up: reading certain types of books, tv, social media, electronics, phones, skip 1 or 2 meals, sweets, sex, porn, movies, shopping, going out to do something you routinely do, staying up late, sleeping in, giving up your favorite food/drink…etc. It can really be anything. Anything that distracts you from being closer to God. Good luck! I’ll keep you all in my prayers as well as I hope you keep my family in yours. Have a safe lent! Share some of your lent traditions and practices with your comments below!

 

God Bless,

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How Can I Pray For You?

I was going to post this yesterday since it was Sunday, and if you are not religious it is usually the day people go to church (yes I am christian I will mention on my soon to be written “about” page). Mondays could always use a prayer to start the day.

I got this off my friend/our photographer on Instagram. I thought it was a great idea. We could all use a little prayer. Being a part of someone’s prayer is always a great blessing.   How can I pray for you or serve you in a Godly way today? We are all going through tough times. What can I help you ask God to give you strength in? (I know we could use some prayer to expel some of the toxic people in our life. Pray for us and them. Also the struggle through building a family with me staying at home and only my husband with the income right now). I know we all have a lot going on and prayer doesn’t take that much time, so I want you all to pray for your peers/family/friends/enemies. It can even be something positive. God gives many blessings good or bad. Even if you are new to my blog or know me personally. Leave a comment below and I promise to pray for you. Think how happy you would make someones day if you say a little prayer for them.

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