Mondays…Get Motivated in Your Relationship

This is my Motivation Monday/Man Crush Monday thought of the day…

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Monthly Date Nights

My man crush always and forever is my husband. This weekend was very productive. We spent time as a family, and we made sure to honor our commitment to getting away from our hectic lives (and our energetic son) at least once a month to have time together. After marriage, and especially after children come in the family, couples forget to make time for each other. Time to talk about ourselves, how we’ve grown individually and how we’ve grown together. Even things that have stressed us and those negative impacts that have overcome ourselves and each other. I believe it’s important to communicate our personality to our partner’s. We go through so many emotional roller coasters that partners need to be told out loud all the emotional changes we go through. No one partner can read the other’s mind no matter how well we think we know each other. Their thoughts and how they feel about those thoughts are two different perspectives. As they always say, “Communication is key!” After all it’s not “Happily Ever After” when you get married like they show in fairly tales. There are so many more adventures and there is so much more work after.

We are not two separate people, but two different people that bring different aspects in the relationship. We work as a team and are partners in life outside and inside our home. When one is slacking in motivation whether it’s life goals or motivation to overcome obstacles, we push each other (especially when it comes to motivating one another to work out). We don’t pay attention to gender roles in our relationship. We equally do the house work, cook, clean, and take care of our son. One might do tasks or chores more than the other, but if one is slacking the other is always there to help pick up after. We value each other’s opinion on topics, ideas and even beliefs in how we raise our children. We can see how our cultural values are different, especially when I come from a culture totally different. Instead of punishing him for not understanding me, I educate him as to why my behaviors are the way they are. You’re not only bringing two different personalities into a marriage you are bringing two different household values and beliefs. Compromise is key in this aspect!

My husband is my MCM (man crush Monday) because we can be nerds together, be athletic together, be adventurous together, discover new things/new places together, be sad together, discuss serious topics together, make each other laugh each minute of the day together, love our son together, show him the world together, forgive together, be spiritual together, be angry together, be supportive of each other, tell each other when we’re getting out of hand, and most of all love together. ❤

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My Sailor Prince

Another New Year’s Resolution

Another year has passed and another list of resolutions are being made by all. What is a “resolution” anyway, are they not just a list of goals for the new year…? Does anyone else get in a little intimidated by that thought of another year and trying to make “resolutions” happen? I feel a lot better when I just make goals for myself and maybe adding a little time frame so there’s no pressure to finish by the end of the year or feel guilty if I didn’t. A time frame seems appropriate because you still want to give yourself that push to do them. If there’s no expected date it can easily be pushed aside. So friends and strangers I welcome you to join me in new GOALS for the year!!

Last year I wrote 5 goals that I felt I would be able to achieve within 2016. I think its safe to say that I proudly accomplished most of it, if not tweaked here and there as the year went. Since last year I have written more. Even though most of it was school related. We definitely went on more family adventures. Finally exploring our area more and getting to know more wonderful people along the way. I know fitness is always everyone’s new year resolution or goal, but most would deteriorate after just 2 or 3 months. I would like to say that I’ve kept up since we started our new family gym at American Sled Dogs. I’ve definitely gone through ups and downs with health this year (I’m still trying to get back on track). After all I’m not perfect health is a struggle for me and maintaining consistency is a challenge (more story to come). I do want to say, that I feel over all my nutrition intake and activity level have improved since post pregnancy and even before then. I did also make a reading challenge list from last year. Though I didn’t accomplish all of it, I did get some reading done. The list will be one of the goals that I roll over to this year and hopefully finish it!

A new year means new adventures, new challenges, and experiences. Things to look forward to: our son’s 2nd birthday, a year left of school until graduating, my mom’s wedding (and everything that comes with wedding occasions/activities), and another year with my little family. I honestly do not have any new major goals for this year. Which for some people there wouldn’t be. Some years if there are no new or big changes in life, it is just another year of unknown adventures. I still have the same goals as last year (being fit, going on more new adventures, reading…etc). Fitness is a high concentration of mine since I’m still not where I want to be. I also have a goal to achieve before my mother’s wedding. {You gotta look good, gurl!} Luckily her wedding is all the way in December, so I have the whole year to better myself with no excuses!! For those new to my blog, I am also a Younique Product Presenter. Since I’ve always been obsessed with all things makeup and love to give reviews here and there. I finally found a product that has been worth sticking around for and even sharing the world about. I really cannot get over how better my skin has been using these products. Now even though I do sell these products as a makeup lover I still use some store brand products here and there. Mostly eye shadows, because I am obsessed with palettes and different colors! Aside from that, I am also doing personal makeup sessions for events in my area (outside area is negotiable/price varies). {Link to book} I’m hoping that this year my little business can pick up a little more! Last year I was able to do my friends wedding event! That was a lot of fun. She and her bridesmaids trusted me with whatever idea I had for their look. If I do say so myself they all looked B E A U T I F U L!! {Pictures} I do also hope to finish school soon, finally getting my bachelors. In hopes to finding the career of my passion.

This year friends, I hope you all achieve those short term goals. Get the good and bad experiences out of them, and hope it gets you to dream even B I G G E R!!

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Hello world!

Hi! My name is Jannine. This actually isn’t my first blog. I have been going around to different sites figuring out which webpage is easy and fun to use. One of my friends on Facebook started a blog on Word Press and I wanted to see the format of how these pages worked. So far I like it!

I started blogging really to practice on my writing skills. I have so many thoughts and it’s so much harder to put them on paper (in this case just writing) than me saying it to someone. I’m not particularly great at English. If you knew me personally it not my first language. English wasn’t my best subject at school either…on a side note I think it’s funny that my mom is pretty good at grammar but can’t speak English very well and has an accent. While I can speak better but terrible at English grammar. Seriously, what’s up with that…anyways, I loved writing stories when I had the time. I still have stories not finished on my computer file waiting to get typed. Getting older I needed more of a outlet for the stress going on around me. I used to keep a journal when I was younger. A couple in fact. Getting older I’ve had a few journals promising to write on them daily, but never do. Then blogging came and it’s been a bit easier to write about what’s going on in my mind.

This blog is going to be random. Mostly about relationships and love (which you will learn I am a hopeless romantic). I also have an interest in it since it is a career path of mine to become a marriage/family therapist. I’ll be talking about my family. Recently, we just had our first baby. Which I will be writing a lot about our boy and the journey of my pregnancy soon. A couple things about my health and fitness. It’s always a struggle to get in shape when you LOVE food like I do. I will also writing things about my life as a Milso. My husband has been in the navy for 4 years now. I can give my input on how a military spouse can save a marriage or talk about the struggles we face as a family.

It’s going to be fun! I hope you all read and like. (For all you grammar Nazis. I already apologize ahead of time. Like I said in the beginning of this post. I am terrible at English and I am a bit dyslexic. I am hoping to improve my writing by keeping this blog active. I do go back and keep rereading what I write because I always find something to edit.)

Happy blogging!

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