Mondays…Get Motivated in Your Relationship

This is my Motivation Monday/Man Crush Monday thought of the day…

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Monthly Date Nights

My man crush always and forever is my husband. This weekend was very productive. We spent time as a family, and we made sure to honor our commitment to getting away from our hectic lives (and our energetic son) at least once a month to have time together. After marriage, and especially after children come in the family, couples forget to make time for each other. Time to talk about ourselves, how we’ve grown individually and how we’ve grown together. Even things that have stressed us and those negative impacts that have overcome ourselves and each other. I believe it’s important to communicate our personality to our partner’s. We go through so many emotional roller coasters that partners need to be told out loud all the emotional changes we go through. No one partner can read the other’s mind no matter how well we think we know each other. Their thoughts and how they feel about those thoughts are two different perspectives. As they always say, “Communication is key!” After all it’s not “Happily Ever After” when you get married like they show in fairly tales. There are so many more adventures and there is so much more work after.

We are not two separate people, but two different people that bring different aspects in the relationship. We work as a team and are partners in life outside and inside our home. When one is slacking in motivation whether it’s life goals or motivation to overcome obstacles, we push each other (especially when it comes to motivating one another to work out). We don’t pay attention to gender roles in our relationship. We equally do the house work, cook, clean, and take care of our son. One might do tasks or chores more than the other, but if one is slacking the other is always there to help pick up after. We value each other’s opinion on topics, ideas and even beliefs in how we raise our children. We can see how our cultural values are different, especially when I come from a culture totally different. Instead of punishing him for not understanding me, I educate him as to why my behaviors are the way they are. You’re not only bringing two different personalities into a marriage you are bringing two different household values and beliefs. Compromise is key in this aspect!

My husband is my MCM (man crush Monday) because we can be nerds together, be athletic together, be adventurous together, discover new things/new places together, be sad together, discuss serious topics together, make each other laugh each minute of the day together, love our son together, show him the world together, forgive together, be spiritual together, be angry together, be supportive of each other, tell each other when we’re getting out of hand, and most of all love together. ❤

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My Sailor Prince

Simple 101 Beauty Tips

Sometimes with so much information out there about health and beauty we get overwhelmed and don’t really know what is the correct way to approach everything with so many different products. I want to first share that I don’t have a degree in cosmetology nor have I gone to school for any of this information. I state these opinions based on personal preference, as a consumer, experiences through trial and error, feedback from others, as well as previous readings. I want to share with you some basic beauty knowledge that I think are important when stepping in to proper skin care products and beauty routines.

First, Know Your Skin

Everyone should be aware of knowing their body. Find out if you have oily skin, dry skin, or combination skin. Notice the difference in what changes your skin through out the day. Be aware of how the skin reacts to certain stimulations of certain products and even objects that touch the skin (objects hold many influential chemicals and materials that can give skin many reactions). Also be aware what time of the month it is (especially for women). Knowing the time of the month can help determine if the skin is breaking out from hormonal reactions or because seasons are changing. Lastly, know what the body is taking in. Certain foods, drinks, and even drugs (pharmaceutical or illegal) can cause many reactions from the excretions of the nutrients contained in them and expose it outside our bodies.

Stick To A Skincare Regimen That Works For You

Finding the right skincare product can some times be a hassle. It takes trial and error to figure out which type and brands work for your skin. It’s definitely okay if you can’t find something the first go around. Test products out depending on where you buy them some may give you time to try and return if you’re not satisfied. With that, keep in mind nothing happens over night. Try the product everyday for at least a week or two (or as said in the product instructions) to see if the results you want are what you are getting. When you do find that cleanser, toner, or foundation that has been beneficial; STICK TO IT. Try not to jump around certain makeup products (such as cleanser, foundation, moisturizers, toners, etc)  when it’s worked for you (eyeshadow, lipstick, etc are an exception).

Follow A Routine 

When you’ve found that skincare line that’s worked for you, get a routine down. Like most things in our life, routine is key to gain the results we want. Make the time to properly take care of your skin by cleansing, toning, moisturizing, and priming before putting makeup products on. Even if you don’t use makeup everyday. It’s still important to cleanse, tone and moisturizing for the day. I believe this is one of the hardest parts of realizing others need to do to get that healthy skin. It is mostly because it is task oriented. Some of us are in a hurry and think it takes too much time, or are too “lazy” to start a routine. My biggest advice is to find a time where you are already prepping for the day. For example, immediately after taking a shower is a perfect time to apply all the correct products need to get started. You can also applying right before bed. I’m sure many of us have some sort of bed time routine, so before that final slip under the covers. Why not add a few minutes after (or before) brushing your teeth to cleanse the face. Remember that when we are resting through the night. That is when our bodies are taking the time to heal and repair our skin. 

Less Is More

This applies to many things. For instance, when we buy food we often look at the labels to see what the calories are or what ingredients it has. Do the same for makeup and skincare products. I’ve always believed that the less and simple ingredients the better. {Try to aim for products that contain more natural ingredients as well. Avoid products that contain harsh alcohols and other chemicals not meant for the skin. Lastly, try to avoid skincare that have a fragrance (unnatural).} Second, when applying product you only usually need just a dime full at a time. That way there is no wasted product and you can always add more as needed. 

It’s Time To Upgrade 

Some of us like to stick to store brand products because it’s what we all started out with and are used to. It’s conveniently available at almost any store you walk into, and let’s be honest, it’s cheapest. But remember cheapest doesn’t always mean the best or the most healthy. Most of the cheaper brand products contain many unhealthy ingredients and harsh chemicals that can do harm in the long run. Some of the products are okay to use once in a while and even as back up when your main product has run out. As we get older, we need to take proper care in what we use. At a certain age its time to set a side some of those unhealthy skin routines and treat yourself to some luxury glow.  It’s the same concept as, “When we get older we need to eat healthier more often.”

The Head To The Neck

When applying skincare products such as: moisturizers, toners, cleansers, and foundations; it’s important to bring those products down to the neck. Do what you do to your face to your neck. It provides an even tone and keeps the face/neck balanced. {You wouldn’t want to have a clean smooth face with a dry wrinkled neck.}

Take It Off

I know it might be redundant and we all hear it, but it is very important. PLEASE TAKE YOUR MAKEUP OFF! Sometimes we might get lazy and or are too tired at the end of the day, but it’s very simple to just take a makeup removal wipe and take it off (do it while you are sitting in the bathroom one last time before bed if you have too). Once in a while is fine. For example, coming in really late at night or just one of those really long days that you are too exhausted and just go straight to bed. However, if you have time to get food or walk around when you get home, you can certainly take a couple seconds to take your makeup off. 

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Another New Year’s Resolution

Another year has passed and another list of resolutions are being made by all. What is a “resolution” anyway, are they not just a list of goals for the new year…? Does anyone else get in a little intimidated by that thought of another year and trying to make “resolutions” happen? I feel a lot better when I just make goals for myself and maybe adding a little time frame so there’s no pressure to finish by the end of the year or feel guilty if I didn’t. A time frame seems appropriate because you still want to give yourself that push to do them. If there’s no expected date it can easily be pushed aside. So friends and strangers I welcome you to join me in new GOALS for the year!!

Last year I wrote 5 goals that I felt I would be able to achieve within 2016. I think its safe to say that I proudly accomplished most of it, if not tweaked here and there as the year went. Since last year I have written more. Even though most of it was school related. We definitely went on more family adventures. Finally exploring our area more and getting to know more wonderful people along the way. I know fitness is always everyone’s new year resolution or goal, but most would deteriorate after just 2 or 3 months. I would like to say that I’ve kept up since we started our new family gym at American Sled Dogs. I’ve definitely gone through ups and downs with health this year (I’m still trying to get back on track). After all I’m not perfect health is a struggle for me and maintaining consistency is a challenge (more story to come). I do want to say, that I feel over all my nutrition intake and activity level have improved since post pregnancy and even before then. I did also make a reading challenge list from last year. Though I didn’t accomplish all of it, I did get some reading done. The list will be one of the goals that I roll over to this year and hopefully finish it!

A new year means new adventures, new challenges, and experiences. Things to look forward to: our son’s 2nd birthday, a year left of school until graduating, my mom’s wedding (and everything that comes with wedding occasions/activities), and another year with my little family. I honestly do not have any new major goals for this year. Which for some people there wouldn’t be. Some years if there are no new or big changes in life, it is just another year of unknown adventures. I still have the same goals as last year (being fit, going on more new adventures, reading…etc). Fitness is a high concentration of mine since I’m still not where I want to be. I also have a goal to achieve before my mother’s wedding. {You gotta look good, gurl!} Luckily her wedding is all the way in December, so I have the whole year to better myself with no excuses!! For those new to my blog, I am also a Younique Product Presenter. Since I’ve always been obsessed with all things makeup and love to give reviews here and there. I finally found a product that has been worth sticking around for and even sharing the world about. I really cannot get over how better my skin has been using these products. Now even though I do sell these products as a makeup lover I still use some store brand products here and there. Mostly eye shadows, because I am obsessed with palettes and different colors! Aside from that, I am also doing personal makeup sessions for events in my area (outside area is negotiable/price varies). {Link to book} I’m hoping that this year my little business can pick up a little more! Last year I was able to do my friends wedding event! That was a lot of fun. She and her bridesmaids trusted me with whatever idea I had for their look. If I do say so myself they all looked B E A U T I F U L!! {Pictures} I do also hope to finish school soon, finally getting my bachelors. In hopes to finding the career of my passion.

This year friends, I hope you all achieve those short term goals. Get the good and bad experiences out of them, and hope it gets you to dream even B I G G E R!!

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Hello…It’s me…

It has really been a long time. I always feel so overwhelmed during the school season, that I never feel like doing much else (from the stress). I have so much to share. New journey’s I’ve taken since last time. New experiences. Even new struggles that have come between my path.

Stay tuned for the individual posts I will be sharing on my different pages. {Topics: Food Recipes, Fitness Log, Relationships/Love and Life.}

Something New (Making It Happen)

Hi guys,

There are a couple of new things coming up in my life. One, I will announce in a couple of weeks! The other is something I’ve been looking at getting involved in but have been on the fence to do. I want to start a Wedding Planning business. The only thing is I wouldn’t know how to go about it. Ideas for when it comes to the wedding I am confident in. It’s the process to actually get started. My father in law was telling about the different managements into building this work. Such as: managing the people, managing the time/schedules, managing the vendors, and the budget. I’ve already had these thoughts in the back of mind and I’m pretty good at handling the ‘upfront’ and ‘hands on’ aspect of running this business. It’s the “business” part that I have no clue on approaching. I know building a website/logo is also a key, but what next…where do I go from there…

If there is anyone out there (especially other wedding planners) that can give me tips on how to start wedding planning or direct me somewhere. I would very much appreciate it. Little tips and advice will go a long way. If you happen to live in the Hampton Roads VA area and is a personal wedding planner. I would love to be an assistant and shadow your work ethic. PLEASE contact me or comment below with an email I can contact you with. I would be so grateful for any help! 🙂

Thanks so much,

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Lent

Yesterday was the start of Lent! {For those who don’t know what Lent is about. It’s the act of valuing repentance. As Catholics, for 40 days and 40 nights (from Ash Wednesday to Easter Sunday) we practice prayer, repent, and fasting. Some may also give up something they value or do that are unGodly means to concentrate on being closer to God and his practices.

My family and I went to Mass to get our ashes put on our foreheads. {Ashes symbolize the dust in which God made us, and that we may remember that we will return to dust again one day.} Then I thought about what I should give up this year and maybe give some ideas to any of you that practice as well.

In previews years I’ve given up soda, chocolate, coffee, video games, and skipping a meal (as far as I can remember). You may ask that those do not add up for how old I am. I’ve repeated some of the previous years when I couldn’t think of anything. This year I decided to give up alcohol. Not that I drink every day at all. This year I feel like I’ve had more alcohol than I’ve had in one year (again not that I drink a lot anyway). I think the reason was because I haven’t had alcohol in a year since I was pregnant than had to breast feed for a while. Subconsciously, I think my mind wanted to make up for it. Plus with friends coming and going and us actually getting to celebrate as a family with our friends having new adventures this year, it added the reason to drink. I just wanted to stop for a while. Plus it helps to lose weight, just another benefit. My husband is giving up video games. Which is good, because he can finally concentrate on better things. Get more stuff done for himself, such a catching up on reading maybe get back into working out.

I laid out some ideas that I hope help some of you. Others people give up: reading certain types of books, tv, social media, electronics, phones, skip 1 or 2 meals, sweets, sex, porn, movies, shopping, going out to do something you routinely do, staying up late, sleeping in, giving up your favorite food/drink…etc. It can really be anything. Anything that distracts you from being closer to God. Good luck! I’ll keep you all in my prayers as well as I hope you keep my family in yours. Have a safe lent! Share some of your lent traditions and practices with your comments below!

 

God Bless,

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Update: A New Page

My best friends recommended to me that I should make a page about all the food I make. Since I’m always posting some of the process on Snapchat and people say my food taste good, so here goes…

I will be making a page about some recipes I make up or have gotten and are things that I find useful. I like to cook but I also don’t like a long process, or a lot of dirty dishes for that matter. Being a mom means things that are fast and easy. A one income family also means saving money and being frugal with groceries, but still finding them to be healthy. I hope you all enjoy this new page and follow me on my journey. My first post will be tomorrow so stay tuned!

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Be The Best You This New Year

I hope everyone had a great New Year’s holiday! Mine was pretty laid back. We had a couple of our friends over for dinner, and of course played video games all night (Star Wars: Battlefront). {If you have not gotten the hints, our family is into video games. More recently we’ve been back into gaming because really good games have come out these past few months. I would recommend checking out Fallout 4, Star Wars: Battlefront, Tom Clancy’s :Rainbow Six Siege, Until Dawn (only for Playstation 4), and Destiny: The Taken King.}

Before I talk about what my goals are this year I would like to share this quote.

A friend of mine posted this one her Instagram, which then I had to borrow for this blog today. This makes a great point! We need to learn from the previous year and grow to reach a better goal for the next. Instead of saying, ‘New Year’s Resolution’ I will be mentioning it as ‘goals.’ I will be striving for a better me this year. Do something different in my life to grow and help grow with those around me. I welcome all of you to join with me in achieving your goals this year. Become a better person for you and those around you.

With that, I want to share my goals for this year (with no particular importance to the order). Instead of one thing, because I wanted to really challenge myself. I’ve got about five things I want better myself with. I hope that it can give you guys some ideas on your goals this year as well.

  1. Read more books. This is probably the top five most pick every year, but it’s true. Having social media has really strayed us away from the basics of learning. I want to be a good example for my son. I want him to learn the way I had to growing up before technology took over. I already found a “Reading Challenge” list I found someone sharing off of Facebook. I am currently achieving ‘a book you previously abandoned,’ which is Grey by E. L. James (which I bought right after I got out of the hospital, from giving birth to our son, thinking I was going to have time to read it). I finished, ‘a book you can finish in a day,’ which I did two for reading Maximum Ride by James Patterson (a graphic novel version of the books). I also added a few book topics to the list of things to read, ‘a series of books, a book you read when you were younger, a graphic novel and/or Manga, and a book that was made into a movie or show.’ {I may have more to add as the year progresses}
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  3. Another pretty cliché goal, is to be fit and healthier this year. That also means to eat healthier. Every year I always make this a goal of mine, because one of my many weakness is of my self-conscious body. Way back when I really started to be self-conscious, I was more worried about looking good. Now, as I get older I want to be healthy so I can be around for my son. I know a lot of illness run in my family and I want to make sure I can avoid them if not lessen most of them. Not going to lie, but some of the motivation is still for me to look better for myself. Giving birth to my son really slowed down losing weight for my body, so I have to work twice as much to have any effect. I was doing pretty well right after I got out of the hospital (I worked out with low intensity each day), and took a few weeks off so my body can recover from the birth. When the holiday started I was slowing down on my routine because we had a lot of visitors come and go. {Which is pretty much what happens to most people during the 3 month holiday season} Now, I’m trying to pick back up again, working out about 2 times a day to catch up; my routine is to work out about 6-5 times a week and usually rest on the weekends. As for my eating habits, I’m going back to eating smaller portions and stopping when my stomach says, ‘it has had enough.’ I’m going to make sure that this year around I will try to work a better system so I don’t slack off doing the holiday season.
  4. I want to write more. Fall 2015, I decided to put the time (and money) into this website. In hopes to maybe help bring in some money with more viewers. {Since I’m a stay at home mom going to school, and with a military  paycheck coming in is not much for our little family.} Mostly, I needed something to improve my writing skills. When I first started this website, I wrote a blog post about my english and grammar skills. I’m using this as a journal and a ticket to practice writing. Having a tangible journal only works for a couple of weeks for me. This way, having a website will give me a better push if I make deadlines for myself to write a couple times a week.
  5. Lastly, I really want to explore more this year. I want to get out of the house and get lost in the world. Not that my husband and I are hermits. We usually go out on the weekends because he works during the week. It’s harder with our son because he just has so much stuff we have to take. I also hate taking him in public for too long if he’s being a hot mess that day. Since he will be getting older this year and hopefully be walking around. I hope to go out on more family adventures. Having my son really motivates me to do more for him. I want to teach him things that I never knew. I want to show him different places in hopes one day he sees more than I ever have.

With that, I hope I’ve given you all some ideas for your goals this year. Some other topics that are popular are maybe cutting back on a certain food that’s not particular health for you. Some people make it a goal to maybe visit church more, or be more spiritual attached then they were before. Maybe it’s your plan to have a baby this year (if you do I pray that you and your partner best wishes). Maybe you’re addicted to something and would like to make an achievement to finally cut that habit out of your life (if so I pray that God can give you the strength to do so). What ever you choose to be your goal. {Pray on it. Let God guide the right path for you.} Let the goal fit to what is best for you. Make little goals. Having big ones are harder to accomplish in less time and they can be over whelming. Give yourself time and a chance to achieve them. Everyone is going to have something different or make that same goal different in their own way. Let’s make it another W O N D E R F U L year full of new memories! Be the best you!!!

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It’s The Most Wonderful Time of Year

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Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays!

I hope you all enjoyed your holiday. New Years is still coming up in a couple of days, so the party hasn’t ended just yet.

Our first Christmas as a family was great! This year we decided to stay at home as a family instead of going back to our hometowns with our parents (mostly financial reasons and because we wanted to spend it as a whole family together). I made dinner on Christmas Eve and we had one of my husband navy buddy’s over. Our son opened one present before bed, because it was one of my traditions growing up. He, of course, was more entertained by the wrapping paper then the book he opened. We stayed up until 4am playing video games (Star Wars: Battlefront).

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Christmas morning we got up opened our presents; which again our son had a field day with the wrapping paper. He did love his Sophie squeeze toy. I highly recommend them for teething babies. We stayed in our pajamas all day, watched christmas movies, ate leftovers, and Skyped with our family. {I got a shopping spree as a christmas present from my husband, my mom gave us a new EOS Canon T5i camera as well many gifts for our son, and my in laws got us clothes and gift card to Macy’s as well as many gifts for our son.} That was pretty much all our fun family activities. I can not wait until next year when our son is a little more aware about holidays and activities we do together. Speaking of activities, we did do another finger painting (in the this case foot painting) for the holiday. Inspired by Pinterest, I had my eyes set on this idea to have ‘Mistletoes.’

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It’s little activities like this that get me excited for when his motor skills develop more and more so he can do more independently.

After the new year, I will be posting about my ‘New years resolution’ and some ideas to share to add to yours. I also have a big surprise I want to write about that I’m doing for my husband after this week is over. Stay tuned!

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P.S. Share and comment about your Holiday traditions and what you did this passed week with your friends and families! 🙂

 

 

Merry Christmas!!

Merry Christmas and/or Happy Holiday’s!! I hope y’all had a great day. Spending time with family and friends. Receiving and giving gifts. I. Can’t wait to share some of our first family Christmas! 🎄🎅🏼🎁

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